#16 April 15, 2007 5:54 pm
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odeon wrote:
I know my wife can get enough of me and my son, at times. The house really does get too "Aspie" for her.
She told me just the other day that sometimes she worries a lot about us.
Exactly the same in our house, Odeon. I'm the translator in both directions, most of the time. We also "overload" my wife just about every day with our chatter and she worries about us, from time to time. It makes her even more worried with all the added stress we have endured, lately, when I start stimming. According to our family psych, a couple of years ago, I'm supposed to be the established success story, so, to my wife, I really shouldn't need to do that anymore (right?). No one has a clue (I have half a clue) how much stimming I actually do.
It also drives her up the wall that my kids and I can each carry on separate conversations with each other, simultaneously, in addition to getting her into a couple of them, too. She can't take that at all. She's also quite claustrophobic and shows it when we become a "crowd in a small place", to her.
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#17 April 17, 2007 3:00 am
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I get to "translate" a lot, too. And sometimes, I need to get my wife off some misconceptions.
She'd probably give you the same answer about HER situation. 
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#18 April 17, 2007 2:47 pm
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odeon wrote:
I know my wife can get enough of me and my son, at times. The house really does get too "Aspie" for her.
She told me just the other day that sometimes she worries a lot about us.
My wife also tells me she worries about us a lot which can be troubling as I worry about everything
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#19 April 18, 2007 12:51 am
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I wish she wouldn't, though, and I really don't understand why she worries.
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#20 April 18, 2007 4:25 am
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My wife has told me she worries most about something happening to her leaving us without her even just for a few days. She also worries about me working in the construction industry which she thinks is too dangerous and I in general learned not to tell her about what happens at work. I don't get why she worries so much and wish she would not also.
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#21 April 18, 2007 6:35 am
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All mothers worry about their families. I think it is something in-grained in our thinking. Mother's for the most part are the managers of the family (in most cultures, the wives are the ones who control the financial details).
Not only that, but once the kids are long gone, mothers will still worry about them. My mother tells me that she worries about me all of the time (and I am going on 33).
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#22 April 18, 2007 7:35 pm
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daddyo wrote:
My daughter and myself both have AS (diagnosed). I frequently find myself acting as the translator between my NT wife and our daughter as well. I'm also sometimes called upon by the special needs group at our church to help other parents understand their AS kids.
Sometimes my wife says the house just gets too "Aspie" for her and she goes shopping for a while and leaves us to our own devices. Can't say I blame her. Its a pretty tall order putting up with 2 of us.
"I have a need of silence and stars, too much is said too loudly." --W. Percy
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#23 August 31, 2009 3:46 am
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odeon wrote:
I know my wife can get enough of me and my son, at times. The house really does get too "Aspie" for her.
She told me just the other day that sometimes she worries a lot about us.
I used to wonder why dad worried about how mum would cope with us when he was gone. Turns out it's very likely he had full blown AS, same as me. I also think two of my siblings have some aspects of the condition, plus at least one uncle. Mum also shows some traits, and so does one of my nieces.
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#24 September 2, 2009 12:13 pm
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My grandmother is an aspie. She'll be 101 this month.
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#25 September 2, 2009 3:47 pm
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Happy Birthday Grandmama!
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#26 September 4, 2009 2:17 am
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